Stop Asking “How’s the Job Hunt?” – Say This Instead
Job hunting can be exhausting.
It can feel isolating too, especially when everyone else seems busy with their own careers or isn’t sure how to support you.
A LinkedIn post I shared recently really connected with people.
The message was simple: if your friend is looking for a job, be a friend.
Not a coach.
Not a recruiter.
Not a hiring manager.
Just a friend.
What does that look like?
Try:
- “How are you doing?”
- “Fancy a coffee?”
- “Want to go for a walk?”
- “Come over for food?”
What it doesn’t sound like is:
- “So… how’s the job search going?”
That question, even with the best intentions, can feel like a mini performance review.
It adds pressure at a time when they probably already feel under pressure.
The truth is, many job seekers don’t need advice right away.
What they crave is connection.
Normality.
Someone to laugh with.
A bit of company.
Here’s the thing: it’s easy to step back.
You might worry about saying the wrong thing, so you say nothing.
But silence often feels like distance.
If you know someone looking for work:
- Check in with them.
- Spend time together.
- Just show up.
Practical help, sharing roles, reviewing CVs, and introducing contacts can come later, when they ask for it.
For now, lead with kindness.
Lead with your time.
Lead with being present.
Because that’s what they’ll remember long after they land the job.
